Articles on Communication

Communication is crucial for couples. But what we sometimes miss in communication is the importance of listening (as well as speaking). When true listening happens then communication becomes a real sharing of our essence. These articles look at aspects of communication within couple relationships. They also apply to relationships with friends and colleagues.

The Subtle Power of Reflective Listening

Practice Reflective Listening in your couple relationship to experience and benefit from its subtle and lasting power.

Couple Arguments When couples come to us saying they have communication issues it is usually due to one or two of the following reasons: Real-World Issues: such as differences of opinion on money, family, debt, children, blended families, houses. Attachment Issues. This often shows up in communication as couples fighting about how they fight. The […] Read More

10 Tips for the Holiday Season: Practice Secure Couples Principles

Practice Secure Couples Principles – Couple with Net (Anonymous, about 1470)

As we approach the summer holiday season (in Australia at least) it’s worth remembering that even in the best of times, with few exceptions, we as couples need to practice the principles of couple security. And this for some even more so when on holiday, with the potentially added complexities of increased time together and […] Read More

Introducing Our Adult Attachment Primer

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We’ve been wanting a simple primer for attachment theory for a while, and while there are several really good books around, not everyone wants to read a whole book on the subject to get an idea of what it’s about. We also wanted to give our view of this topic, after ten years of working […] Read More

A Serious (Security) Question

Security Questions: Couple communication and the pain that comes from misunderstanding and miscommunication with those we love

Security Questions and Answers We’ve been thinking since our last post The Gold in “Seeing Through” about how often we misunderstand one another and create problems and pain where these could be avoided. One way this happens is by not understanding what our partner is really asking of us. In relationships we sometimes use “security” […] Read More

The Gold in “Seeing Through”

Slowing down couple communication and not taking our partner personally can aid in creating a healthy relationship.

Finally Seeing Through! We recently received a call from a man, from a troubled couple we’d previously worked with, to say that they were off on an exotic trip to get married! The relationship had been characterised by stormy outbursts on the part of the woman, and subsequent anger and retreat on the part of […] Read More