Articles on Communication

Communication is crucial for couples. But what we sometimes miss in communication is the importance of listening (as well as speaking). When true listening happens then communication becomes a real sharing of our essence. These articles look at aspects of communication within couple relationships. They also apply to relationships with friends and colleagues.

10 Tips for the Holiday Season: Practice Secure Couples Principles

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As we approach the summer holiday season (in Australia at least) it’s worth remembering that even in the best of times, with few exceptions, we as couples need to practice the principles of couple security. And this for some even more so when on holiday, with the potentially added complexities of increased time together and […] Read More

An Adult Attachment Primer

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We’ve been wanting a simple primer for attachment theory for a while, and while there are several really good books around, not everyone wants to read a whole book on the subject to get an idea of what it’s about. We also wanted to give our view of this topic, after ten years of working […] Read More

A Serious Question

Couple communication and the pain that comes from misunderstanding and miscommunication with those we love

We’ve been thinking since our last post The Gold in "Seeing Through" about how often we misunderstand one another and create problems and pain where these could be avoided. One way this happens is by not understanding what our partner is really asking of us. In relationships we sometimes use “security” questions to try to […] Read More

The Gold in “Seeing Through”

Slowing down couple communication and not taking our partner personally can aid in creating a healthy relationship.

We recently received a call from a man, from a troubled couple we’d previously worked with, to say that they were off on an exotic trip to get married! The relationship had been characterised by stormy outbursts on the part of the woman, and subsequent anger and retreat on the part of the man. The […] Read More

Go the Other Way

Find new ways through disagreements.  Doing the same thing but expecting different results never works.  Read more to find another way.

We wrote in Being Right and Being Wrong about the dynamics that occur between the partners in a couple relationship, and about going beyond right and wrong. We want to go into more depth on this topic. Let’s start with A Course in Miracles, which says: Reason will tell you that the only way to […] Read More