Articles on Family of Origin
These articles refer to the process of clarifying and investigating the sometimes complex dynamics that played out in the family in which we grew up. We can explore our remembered experiences of parents and silings, and also sometimes other members of the extended family (for example, grandparents). By bringing some of these experiences into a clearer awareness we gain relief from symptoms.
Here’s a model that can help in understanding depression, addictions and self-esteem issues. The model’s both old and new, deriving from ancient reflective practices, as well as from Jung and beyond, up to contemporary psychotherapy. Although the model may not be the one answer to (for example) substance addiction (which is, potentially, a complex response […] Read More
The term couple bubble is gaining currency in couples work. Stan Tatkin, in his book Wired for Love (which we recommend to couples) defines it as: …the mutually constructed membrane, cocoon, or womb that holds a couple together and protects each partner from outside elements. The couple bubble is built on a set of implicit […] Read More
Don’t come to see us as a couple if you want us to take sides and decide who's right and who's wrong! We never see couples issues as one person's fault. They're a dynamic between two people, and if the dynamic continues to reoccur then both people need to see their part in it. As […] Read More
We spoke in a recent article about Narcissistic Wounding in the couple relationship, and how learning to withstand this wounding can be a powerful way of transforming a relationship. The artist Louise Bourgeois had a deep understanding of narcissism, as evidenced by the rich art works she made over many years. In these works she […] Read More
Are we sleeping with our expectations of our partner? Is there a day-to-day story (delicately held, away from the light) of the deal we have done to make ourselves feel safe, to complete an old story? In other words, are we willing to investigate; perhaps even to bring our unconscious expectations into the light in […] Read More