Articles on Relationships

These articles focus on relationships (whether intimate, friendship-based or collegiate) as central to our sense of value and self-esteem. They describe ways in which we work with both couples and individuals to free people from blocks to healthy interactions and intimacy.

10 Tips for the Holiday Season: Practice Secure Couples Principles

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As we approach the summer holiday season (in Australia at least) it’s worth remembering that even in the best of times, with few exceptions, we as couples need to practice the principles of couple security. And this for some even more so when on holiday, with the potentially added complexities of increased time together and […] Read More

An Adult Attachment Primer

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We’ve been wanting a simple primer for attachment theory for a while, and while there are several really good books around, not everyone wants to read a whole book on the subject to get an idea of what it’s about. We also wanted to give our view of this topic, after ten years of working […] Read More

The Large and the Small Cog Wheels

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We're just back from the GANZ (Gestalt Australia and New Zealand) conference in Canberra where we gave a presentation on our eclectic approach to couples therapy, and on the co-therapy model we practice and talk about on this site. It was gratifying to receive such positive feedback on our way of working, and a great […] Read More

A Serious Question

Couple communication and the pain that comes from misunderstanding and miscommunication with those we love

We’ve been thinking since our last post The Gold in "Seeing Through" about how often we misunderstand one another and create problems and pain where these could be avoided. One way this happens is by not understanding what our partner is really asking of us. In relationships we sometimes use “security” questions to try to […] Read More

The Gold in “Seeing Through”

Slowing down couple communication and not taking our partner personally can aid in creating a healthy relationship.

We recently received a call from a man, from a troubled couple we’d previously worked with, to say that they were off on an exotic trip to get married! The relationship had been characterised by stormy outbursts on the part of the woman, and subsequent anger and retreat on the part of the man. The […] Read More