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The Subtle Power of Reflective Listening

Practice Reflective Listening in your couple relationship to experience and benefit from its subtle and lasting power.

Couple Arguments When couples come to us saying they have communication issues it is usually due to one or two of the following reasons: Real-World Issues: such as differences of opinion on money, family, debt, children, blended families, houses. Attachment Issues. This often shows up in communication as couples fighting about how they fight. The […] Read More

The Gold in “Seeing Through”

Slowing down couple communication and not taking our partner personally can aid in creating a healthy relationship.

Finally Seeing Through! We recently received a call from a man, from a troubled couple we’d previously worked with, to say that they were off on an exotic trip to get married! The relationship had been characterised by stormy outbursts on the part of the woman, and subsequent anger and retreat on the part of […] Read More

Go the Other Way

Find new ways through disagreements.  Doing the same thing but expecting different results never works.  Read more to find another way.

The Dynamics in Couple Relationships We wrote in Being Right and Being Wrong about the dynamics that occur between the partners in a couple relationship, and about going beyond right and wrong. We want to go into more depth on this topic. Let’s start with A Course in Miracles, which says: Reason will tell you […] Read More

Being Right and Being Wrong

The difference between being right and being happy and healthy.  See how attack and defence keep the problems stuck.

Couple Dynamics Don’t come to see us as a couple if you want us to take sides and decide who’s right and who’s wrong! We never see couples issues as one person’s fault. They’re a dynamic between two people, and if the dynamic continues to reoccur then both people need to see their part in […] Read More