Couples

Accepting Difference

Carved wooden monument from Madagascar – Acceptance of Difference

Difference in Counselling and Psychotherapy One of the big themes we see in Counselling and Psychotherapy with both couples and individuals is a difficulty in accepting and dealing with difference, and the conflicts associated with this. This post is a short meditation on difference. Sometimes Masked in Counselling Here are some examples from Counselling that […] Read More

The Subtle Power of Reflective Listening

Practice Reflective Listening in your couple relationship to experience and benefit from its subtle and lasting power.

Couple Arguments When couples come to us saying they have communication issues it is usually due to one or two of the following reasons: Real-World Issues: such as differences of opinion on money, family, debt, children, blended families, houses. Attachment Issues. This often shows up in communication as couples fighting about how they fight. The […] Read More

10 Tips for the Holiday Season: Practice Secure Couples Principles

Practice Secure Couples Principles – Couple with Net (Anonymous, about 1470)

Tips from an Attachment Point of View As we approach the summer holiday season (in Australia at least) it’s worth remembering that even in the best of times, with few exceptions, we as couples need to practice the principles of couple security. And this for some even more so when on holiday, with the potentially […] Read More

The Large and the Small Cog Wheels

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Therapy Duo at the GANZ Conference We’re just back from the GANZ (Gestalt Australia and New Zealand) conference in Canberra where we gave a presentation on our eclectic approach to couples therapy, and on the co-therapy model we practice and talk about on this site. It was gratifying to receive such positive feedback on our […] Read More

The Gold in “Seeing Through”

Slowing down couple communication and not taking our partner personally can aid in creating a healthy relationship.

Finally Seeing Through! We recently received a call from a man, from a troubled couple we’d previously worked with, to say that they were off on an exotic trip to get married! The relationship had been characterised by stormy outbursts on the part of the woman, and subsequent anger and retreat on the part of […] Read More