Stan Tatkin

A Serious (Security) Question

Security Questions: Couple communication and the pain that comes from misunderstanding and miscommunication with those we love

Security Questions and Answers We’ve been thinking since our last post The Gold in “Seeing Through” about how often we misunderstand one another and create problems and pain where these could be avoided. One way this happens is by not understanding what our partner is really asking of us. In relationships we sometimes use “security” […] Read More

Reflections on the Couple Bubble

Creating a safe relationship that can grow and flourish.  Understand unconscious and conscious agreements and other tips.

Couple Bubble The term couple bubble is gaining currency in couples work. Stan Tatkin, in his book Wired for Love (which we recommend to couples) defines it as: …the mutually constructed membrane, cocoon, or womb that holds a couple together and protects each partner from outside elements. The couple bubble is built on a set […] Read More