Articles on Communication

Communication is crucial for couples. But what we sometimes miss in communication is the importance of listening (as well as speaking). When true listening happens then communication becomes a real sharing of our essence. These articles look at aspects of communication within couple relationships. They also apply to relationships with friends and colleagues.

Wu-Wei and Couple Relationships

The Storm Passes Over – Wu-Wei and Couple Relationships

Wu-Wei and the Lake Como Storm We awoke one night at Lake Como this (Northern) summer to a powerful storm with endless rolling thunder. The air was lit with bright sheets of lightning, the rain hammered down, and the power in our apartment was cut off. This went on for hours, and all we could […] Read More

The Subtle Power of Reflective Listening

Practice Reflective Listening in your couple relationship to experience and benefit from its subtle and lasting power.

Couple Arguments When couples come to us saying they have communication issues it is usually due to one or two of the following reasons: Real-World Issues: such as differences of opinion on money, family, debt, children, blended families, houses. Attachment Issues. This often shows up in communication as couples fighting about how they fight. The […] Read More

10 Tips for the Holiday Season: Practice Secure Couples Principles

Practice Secure Couples Principles – Couple with Net (Anonymous, about 1470)

Tips from an Attachment Point of View As we approach the summer holiday season (in Australia at least) it’s worth remembering that even in the best of times, with few exceptions, we as couples need to practice the principles of couple security. And this for some even more so when on holiday, with the potentially […] Read More

Introducing Our Adult Attachment Primer

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We’ve been wanting a simple primer for attachment theory for a while, and while there are several really good books around, not everyone wants to read a whole book on the subject to get an idea of what it’s about. We also wanted to give our view of this topic, after ten years of working […] Read More

A Serious (Security) Question

Security Questions: Couple communication and the pain that comes from misunderstanding and miscommunication with those we love

Security Questions and Answers We’ve been thinking since our last post The Gold in “Seeing Through” about how often we misunderstand one another and create problems and pain where these could be avoided. One way this happens is by not understanding what our partner is really asking of us. In relationships we sometimes use “security” […] Read More