Articles on Relationships

These articles focus on relationships (whether intimate, friendship-based or collegiate) as central to our sense of value and self-esteem. They describe ways in which we work with both couples and individuals to free people from blocks to healthy interactions and intimacy.

Couples Work and “The Third”

Rosarium Philosophorum Plate 2 – “The Third”

Couples Therapy as More than Conflict Resolution At Therapy Duo, in Couples therapy, we often take a psycho-educational role and offer very practical tips for resolving couple conflicts. But we are also always aware of another level operating in the couple relationships we see. This level can be hard to pin down and define, and […] Read more

Accepting Difference

Carved wooden monument from Madagascar – Acceptance of Difference

Difference in Counselling and Psychotherapy One of the big themes we see in Counselling and Psychotherapy with both couples and individuals is a difficulty in accepting and dealing with difference, and the conflicts associated with this. This post is a short meditation on difference. Sometimes Masked in Counselling Here are some examples from Counselling that […] Read more

Catching Things at the Beginning

Tasmania – a Metaphor for Beginnings and Counselling

Triggers Something we’ve found very useful when working with clients is getting them to tune into themselves to understand when they are getting triggered. We use the word “triggered” to identify when someone has an emotional reaction which may be unproductive (and is usually based on old patterns), in any situation, and then acts based […] Read more

Wu-Wei and Couple Relationships

The Storm Passes Over – Wu-Wei and Couple Relationships

Wu-Wei and the Lake Como Storm We awoke one night at Lake Como this (Northern) summer to a powerful storm with endless rolling thunder. The air was lit with bright sheets of lightning, the rain hammered down, and the power in our apartment was cut off. This went on for hours, and all we could […] Read more

The Subtle Power of Reflective Listening

Practice Reflective Listening in your couple relationship to experience and benefit from its subtle and lasting power.

Couple Arguments When couples come to us saying they have communication issues it is usually due to one or two of the following reasons: Real-World Issues: such as differences of opinion on money, family, debt, children, blended families, houses. Attachment Issues. This often shows up in communication as couples fighting about how they fight. The […] Read more