Accepting Difference

Communication, Relationships
Carved wooden monument from Madagascar – Acceptance of Difference

Difference in Counselling and Psychotherapy One of the big themes we see in Counselling and Psychotherapy with both couples and individuals is a difficulty in accepting and dealing with difference, and the conflicts associated with this. This post is a short meditation on difference. Sometimes Masked in Counselling Here are some examples from Counselling that […] Read More

Catching Things at the Beginning

Existentialism, Relationships, Therapeutic Method
Tasmania – a Metaphor for Beginnings and Counselling

Triggers Something we’ve found very useful when working with clients is getting them to tune into themselves to understand when they are getting triggered. We use the word “triggered” to identify when someone has an emotional reaction which may be unproductive (and is usually based on old patterns), in any situation, and then acts based […] Read More

Wu-Wei and Couple Relationships

Communication, Relationships
The Storm Passes Over – Wu-Wei and Couple Relationships

Wu-Wei and the Lake Como Storm We awoke one night at Lake Como this (Northern) summer to a powerful storm with endless rolling thunder. The air was lit with bright sheets of lightning, the rain hammered down, and the power in our apartment was cut off. This went on for hours, and all we could […] Read More

The Subtle Power of Reflective Listening

Communication, Relationships
Practice Reflective Listening in your couple relationship to experience and benefit from its subtle and lasting power.

Couple Arguments When couples come to us saying they have communication issues it is usually due to one or two of the following reasons: Real-World Issues: such as differences of opinion on money, family, debt, children, blended families, houses. Attachment Issues. This often shows up in communication as couples fighting about how they fight. The […] Read More

10 Tips for the Holiday Season: Practice Secure Couples Principles

Communication, Relationships
Practice Secure Couples Principles – Couple with Net (Anonymous, about 1470)

Tips from an Attachment Point of View As we approach the summer holiday season (in Australia at least) it’s worth remembering that even in the best of times, with few exceptions, we as couples need to practice the principles of couple security. And this for some even more so when on holiday, with the potentially […] Read More